1. Appreciate yourself
We are so demanding on our bodies and minds that there is no doubt why so many people have burn outs or get sick. We work hard, we play hard, we demand perfection. Be sure that you are acknowledging how hard you work at things and take moments here and there to notice what you have accomplished no matter how small the task may seem!
2. Stop comparing
It’s natural for us to compare our self with other people when we are young so we can understand social dynamics. We assess others as friends, threats, everything in between. But there comes a time when we need to stop doing this. Learn to see the beauty in others, even if you think it is greater than your own. If someone is more successful- then good for them. Be happy for their success. Stop thinking you need to be more like anyone else. Be the best you that you can be, that is all that matters. The world will thank you for it!
3. Take down time when you need it
It is far too easy to get caught up with things and forget to rest in between. Chaotic work and life schedules often leave little time for relaxation, down time, and even a long over needed nap or cuddle with the pooch. When the opportunity arises to kick your feet up and – take it! Take some well deserved you time and feel good about it too. You need this!
4. Push yourself when you need it
Sometimes we are too scared to try new things or go new places. Within reason, PUSH YOURSELF! Take a chance! Go somewhere you’ve always wanted to go, try some crazy new food off the menu you’ve been too chicken to try. Get that haircut that you have 30 pics of stashed in your phone. Be bold. Be free!
5. Don’t be too demanding
Okay, chances are you aren’t a neurosurgeon, competing for the Olympics, with a house full of kids, and few companies on the side, with a part-time modelling gig and your own fashion line. Am I right? We are soooo demanding on our self! We expect so much perfection that at times, it is borderline hilarious! We think “I have to be super successful at work, in great shape, maybe even the perfect mom, perfect girlfriend or wife, stunningly beautiful, wearing the top fashion…” Like come on? Really? Time to chill out and be the best version of yourself. Maybe your job isn’t the most glorious, you aren’t the best at this or that, you aren’t going to make the cover of a top magazine, you don’t have a perfect body… well – then get over it! You are you and that alone is amazing!
6. Let go
We all hold on to so much negativity. Old drama, old relationship, family issues, you name it. Time to take some advice from Elsa and “let it go” before it really has negative effects on you. Stress, anxiety, anger make you look physically older, less attractive, make you more prone to sicknesses, and people want to spend less time with you. Is that not reason enough to stop stressing over stuff?
7. Learn to forgive
People have wronged you. There is no doubt that somewhere along the lines, someone has done something that has hurt you. Maybe it hurt A LOT, maybe it was several different people, or one in particular? In any case, it is up to you to decide how you move forward. To forgive helps us let go and move on with our life. Why wouldn’t you want to move on to a better, happier, and brighter future?
8. Find out what truly makes you happy
Sometimes we get so caught up with things that we don’t spend enough time focusing on what it is that we truly need to be happy. We have forgotten or maybe never really explored what it is that brings joy to our life. And if we have, chances are – we don’t spend enough time doing it. Say your dog is the pinnacle of happiness for you but you don’t walk him often because of work, or life, or whatever. Make a personal commitment to start doing more of what you love. When you do this, you will feel better in your heart, in your body, and chances are you will sleep much better too.
9. Treat yourself
When we work hard, it is a good thing to remember to celebrate our successes. It helps us remember to appreciate our self and to value our own self worth. Now and then, take the time to treat yourself! If you’ve been eating well and exercising and really really really want to get take out for the first time in what feels like eons – do it. (Chances are though… it will taste amazing and make you feel like crap after so you won’t want it again)! Or if you’ve been saving and really monitoring your spending so you can get yourself a new jacket – do it. Maybe all you want is to get a nice big latte after a super stressful meeting that you’ve been preparing for over the past month – then DO IT! You are allowed to high five yourself!
10. Hang with a good crew
If you are spending time with miserable people then you need to change this. If your crew isn’t inspiring you to be the best version of yourself, or if they are negative, living a life you are trying to get away from… change your group. You might need to distance yourself at first and you might be scared that you’ll be alone. You won’t be. As you start focusing on the positive things you want to do, you will naturally meet and attract more people like you.
11. Stop spending and save for something special
Far too often we get in the habit of spending money on stupid things like drinks at the bar, take out food, cheap junk. Save your money and buy something you really need or really want! Maybe it is clothes, or bling, or a vacation! There are so many amazing places to visit, even just a couple of hours away from you. If you don’t want to splurge on expensive travel, go for a road trip or go camping! And if you want to buy something for yourself, buy something special that will last and last.
12. Eat well
There is no escaping good food. You can’t expect your body to be nice to you if you are feeding it nothing but junk. Maybe you can get away with it for a little while, but it will eventually catch up and you will have more health problems than you can even begin to start counting. It is cheaper and way healthier to eat well. It can be way faster too!
13. Get lots of sleep
Make sure that you are getting your beauty rest. (If you need tips with getting more sleep – we have already prepared these for you, don’t worry!). Sleep is critical for health, well-being, and your appearance. If you aren’t sleeping well, you aren’t going to feel good, look good, or be able to perform well either.
14. Stop trying to be like others
The more you try to be like someone else, the faker it comes across. There is nothing less attractive than someone trying to “be” anyone other than themselves. What you wear, what you say, what you do should be a reflection of YOU. Not what anyone else thinks or does. Remember, you rock. Yes… you.
15. Try something new
If there is something you’ve always wanted to do… try it! Maybe it is signing up for a run, trying painting, volunteering at a shelter… why don’t you do it? Seriously, you only have this moment, think about it! Do you really want to have regrets later in your life? You might try it then hate whatever it is, which is fine. At least you will know. But, say you absolutely love whatever it is you want to try – then that is incredible! You might become really good at it too! Find new things that are fun and exciting!
16. Every day is a new day
Okay, so yesterday or the past week, month, few years, whatever haven’t been the greatest. Get over it. Today is a new day, a fresh start. It is never too late to change who you are, where you are going, what you like, who you love. Don’t risk letting things pass you by because you think the time for them is long gone. Try and if you fail, try again!
17. Stay true to what you believe
Don’t sacrifice your morals and ethics to be like others. If you believe that eating meat is wrong, then that is totally fine, don’t eat meat. If you are going out with people who eat meat, you don’t have to, order something different. Same with drinking. Same with cheating. Same with whatever it is you are dealing with. You have to face yourself in the mirror and it is a lot easier to do so when you know you have been true to you.
18. Believe in yourself
Have the courage to believe in yourself. Apply for those jobs you are scared you won’t be good enough. Wear the outfit you aren’t sure you can rock. Ask that guy out who you’ve been crushing on. Stand up for yourself when you need to. Believe in yourself- this is your job!
19. Go outside
There are so many incredible benefits to being outdoors. For your mental, physical, and spiritual health. Go outside and explore the world. Go somewhere beautiful, even a park nearby. Or take a walk and clear your mind. Nature will always amaze you and bring you a new perspective.
20. Be active
Being active doesn’t mean that you have to go to the gym and lift weights. It doesn’t mean you have to run marathons either. It means that you have to move, get your body doing something. Take the stairs when and if you are able to. Go for walks outside. Play a sport. Do an activity. Try yoga. Do something that makes your body move, that strengthens it, and that makes you feel good!
21. Learn to live in the moment
There is nothing more incredible then really enjoying something special. It can be as simple as an evening curled up with your two or four legged love, jamming at your favourite concert, eating the best food in town or even your first sip of coffee in the morning. Learn to enjoy the little things in life. The more present you are, the more you live in the moment, the less all the other crap will matter. You will truly open your heart to new adventures, new love, and true happiness.